I.O.P.

I.O.P.

Separate Intensive Outpatient Programs that are short term, high value and low cost for: The Sex Addict, The Partner, or The Couple.

I.O.P.
What is Sex Addiction?

What is Sex Addiction?

Sex Addiction is is a pathological relationship with a mood altering experience that includes deprivations and excesses. It is a maladaptive behavior involving any type of uncontrollable sexual activity that results in negative consequences.

What is Sex Addiction?
Programs

Programs

In a safe, confidential, environment, you will be interviewed and assessed using state of the art techniques to decipher the presence and extent of sex or love addiction.

Programs
Partners

Partners

NYCoStar treats partners through a partner sensitive model, the multi-dimensional partner treatment model which focuses on the partner, the addict and the primary coupleship.

Partners
Resources

Resources

At NyCostar, we are sensitive to the issues and needs of the GLBTQ community.

Resources
Couples

Couples

Couples will be taught how to contain and express emotional intensity in a non abusive manner, and how to navigate the recovery road together, while providing empathy and support for each other

Couples

New York City – Sex Addiction, Partners of Addicts, Love Addiction and Avoidance.

What Sets Me Apart from Others?

In my office I have treated both the addict and the partner, gaining insight and perspective from both points of view. This has been tremendously helpful as a clinician to help traumatized couples establish compassion for each other at one of the, if not the most. darkest time in their lives.

How Can I Help You?

With over 15 years of experience, I have heard in-depth stories from people in pain about one of the two most private areas of a person’s life, their sexual behavior, the other one being their financials, which are often inextricably tied together.  I use Brainspotting as well as EMDR as treatment modalities to help clients heal from past traumas and current day issues that are blocking healing and emotional freedom.

My Committment To You

I will energetically and creatively guide you, or you and your partner, out of destructive patterns and into integrated, thriving love and sexuality, devoid of shame and guilt. I will use mindful expertise to assist you while holding you accountable on your journey toward attainable sexual health.

Call for an appointment: 917-574-9034

Boulder, Colorado - BCoStar

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great article about the origins, and treatment of addiction

http://www.npr.org/blogs/13.7/2015/03/27/395774025/the-fight-against-addiction-is-love-all-you-need?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=npr&utm_term=nprnews&utm_content=20150327

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The Fight Against Addiction: Is Love All You Need?

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Many addicts opt for self-medication over encounter — they turn inward and shut out the world, says commentator Alva Noë, as he ponders a new book on addiction by Johann Hari.

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Staying active could benefit more than just heart health in men.

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What Exercise Might Do for Men's Sexual Health

http://www.dailyrx.com

Staying active could benefit more than just heart health in men.

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The price of shame

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In 1998, says Monica Lewinsky, “I was Patient Zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale almost instantaneously.” Today, the kind of online public shaming she went through has become a constant. In a brave talk, she takes a look at our “culture of humiliation,” in which online shame equa…

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http://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex-addiction/2013/02/too-good-looking-too-smart-or-too-rich-to-recovery-from-sex-addiction/

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Too Good-Looking, Too Smart, or Too Rich (to Recover from Sex Addiction)

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There is an old recovery saying that you can’t get sober if you are too smart, too rich or too good-looking. Anyone working with sex addicts knows that these attributes can sometimes present challenges. I’m not saying that looks brains and...

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http://www.loveaddictiontreatment.com/romance-addiction/proven-ways-to-overcome-relationship-addiction/

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Proven Ways To Overcome Relationship Addiction

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It’s time to get over that desperate need & learn to have a normal relationship with love. Check out proven ways to overcome relationship addiction!

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http://blogs.psychcentral.com/life-goals/2015/02/7-things-sex-addiction-doesnt-want-you-to-know/

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7 Things Sex Addiction Doesn’t Want You to Know!

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Hi there – my name is sex addiction. You know me by several other names, including sex addict, behavioral addiction and process addiction. I’m an insidious form of dependency that is often not discussed with anyone because I use shame and guilt...

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http://staystopped.org/trapped_in_own_bs/

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Trapped in your own BS? – Rebalancing the Addictive Mind

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Ever find your mind racing down a path you don’t want to travel? Catastrophizing about the future? Engaging mental gymnastics inside your head to debate points or events now irrelevant? Why do we torment ourselves so?

New York Center of Sexual Treatment and Recovery shared a link.

http://elitedaily.com/dating/like-know-youre-toxic-cant-let-go/945320/

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What It's Like To Know You're Toxic For Each Other But Can't Let Go

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The agony does numb over time, yet it lingers on indefinitely.

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http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/author/lawrence-josephs/

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Lawrence Josephs - Opinionator - NYTimes.com

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Couch Feb 24 3:30 amFeb 24 3:30 am When the Best Sex Is ExtramaritalBy Lawrence Josephs Couch is a series about psychotherapy. I received a voice mail from a 40-something woman, Cynthia, who requested a late-evening session because she worked long hours at her law firm. She said that I was one of th…

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http://elitedaily.com/dating/pain-falling-guy-kinda-likes/923946/?utm_source=huffingtonpost.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=pubexchange

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The Pain Of Falling For A Guy Who Only 'Kinda' Likes You

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It is a miserable feeling when after you invest your time and emotions in someone and are still not sure where you stand.

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A great Vimeo on Blame. thanks to Brene' Brown!

http://vimeo.com/117375823?from=facebook

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RSA Shorts: Dr Brené Brown, “Blame”

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The Royal Society for the encouragement of Arts (the RSA) is an enlightenment organisation committed to finding innovative practical solutions to today’s social…

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http://www.bustle.com/articles/61462-10-things-therapists-wish-youd-understand-about-what-they-do

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10 Things Therapists Wish You'd Understand About What They Do

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Most people don’t know what they’re walking into when they finally take the plunge and first visit a therapist. Perhaps you expect the jargon-spouting, new-agey caricatures you see on television; people who gossip about your deepest secrets with their brunch pals or will jump into bed with their

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Getting and Spending: an addiction of its own.

http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-31051632

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The stuff paradox

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While more and more Americans struggle to make do with less due to economic hardship, others are making a conscious choice to shed their possessions.

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So powerful.
https://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/Bmc5wt_4Zow?rel=0

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No Angels // A Music Video about Porn, Sex & Love.

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"No Angels" is a song about pornography. Sex. Lust. And learning to love. READ LYRICS/DOWNLOAD MP3: http://grandmaster.bandcamp.com/track/no-angels Words // ...

New York Center of Sexual Treatment and Recovery shared a link.

http://www.brainpickings.org/2015/01/29/rilke-on-love/

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Rilke on What It Really Means to Love

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"For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks... the work for which all other work is but prepar

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http://www.delrayrecoverycenter.com/14813/what-to-do-if-you-are-feeling-depressed/

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What To Do If You Are Feeling Depressed

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Depression is an isolating and debilitating disorder. Here's what to do if you are feeling depressed.

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http://www.feelguide.com/2015/01/06/new-research-discovers-tha-depression-is-an-allergic-reaction-to-inflammation/

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New Research Discovers That Depression Is An Allergic Reaction To Inflammation

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New research is revealing that many cases of depression are caused by an allergic reaction to inflammation. Tim de Chant of NOVA writes: “Inflammation is our immune system’s natural response to injuries, infections, or foreign compounds. When triggered, the body pumps various cells and proteins to…

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excellent article and video on mindfulness and how to be happier
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/01/three-neural-predispositions/384642/

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Attention: A Muscle to Strengthen

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A doctor's recommendations for mental health evoke more philosophy than biology.

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http://www.themeadows.com/blog/item/594-a-brief-screen-for-sex-addiction

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A Brief Screen for Sex Addiction - The Meadows

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The Meadows blog discusses topics related to our addiction and trauma treatment program.

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html

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The Likely Cause of Addiction Has Been Discovered, and It Is Not What You Think

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New evidence about addiction isn't just a challenge to us politically. It doesn't just force us to change our minds. It forces us to change our hearts....

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http://www.salon.com/2013/07/31/living_in_america_will_drive_you_insane_literally_partner/

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Living in America will drive you insane — literally

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Data suggests the US is experiencing an epidemic of crippling mental illness. We may have only ourselves to blame

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Rape research: "We really wanted to figure out what the difference in people’s minds, of the behavioral description versus the label."
http://www.salon.com/2015/01/15/the_ugly_truth_about_sexual_assault_more_men_admit_to_it_if_you_dont_call_it_rape

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The ugly truth about sexual assault: More men admit to it if you don’t call it rape

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A researcher tells Salon about the startling data on men's ideas about sexual assault -- and how to change them

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http://higherperspective.com/2015/01/ear.html?utm_source=HP

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This Is What Happens When You Massage This Point On The Ear -

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On a recent television show about healthy living on Russian national television, a doctor of medical science and psychiatry, Mark Sandomirsky, advised his patients to relive stress using this easy technique. The source of stress often varies and people almost always experience it in different ways.…

Am I a sex addict?

Sexual addiction is a complex addiction but there is hope! As a trained Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), I have completed training developed by Dr. Patrick Carnes which required attendance at multiple training modules and supervision with a CSAT Supervisor. It also requires ongoing education so that CSATs such as myself are experts in providing sexual addiction therapy. It is a rigorous process designed to help me best help you.
Learn more about treatment for sex addiction including an initial (free) sexual addiction screening assessment